Monday, October 10, 2005

A Thought

My husband and I ( and when I say my husband and I, I mean me and he was there listening to what I have to say) had a very deep and soul reaching talk on Saturday.
Of course, it was induced by the many beers we had to drink in order to make it through the reception we were attending.
And while I enjoy those talks with him and we are all lovey on each other and what not, I feel worse for having it.
None of my fears, questions, etc., none of them, were resolved or addressed. That would require some input from hubby.
I have only managed to accumulate new fears and questions. A lot of them things I know he can't fix, and not wanting him to, but a reassuring word now and then. That would do for me.

13 comments:

Px said...

men don't do subtle

ever

so when you want to have a deep and meaningful, don't do it after beers
it just won't work

berly02 said...

Thanks for the advice :)

Katie said...
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Katie said...

you know i have that same prob when i talk to Chris. We can talk for hours but my Q and worries(sp) are never resolved or addressed like you. I don't understand it..

He says if I meet some guy and he makes me happy more than he does. Then he would want me to be with him. I should wish the same for him he say's. He says he is not looking for that but I was like what the fuck!! I did not know wthat to think about that..

what would you think?

I'm in the same place right now with Chris so would love to help you out but I have to find a way to help myself first....:o/

10:27 AM

berly02 said...

Thanks Katie!
Alan (hubby) hasn't told me he would want me to be with someone else but it would totally throw me off if he did. What did you say to Chris????

Lindsey said...

You have to understand that Chris is also a bit of a prick. No offense Kate...

PX is right. We always seem to have these kinds of talks after drinking but they don't really work if you're drunk.

Katie said...

berly,
I said what the fuck! I did not what more to say then that...He said he ment it in a good way. That he does not want me to find some1 new.

He said that if I found some one that would make me more happy then he does and would give me everything I want. Then he would want me too cause he wasnt me to be happy and have all that I want in the world. I duno I knoew he ment well but I just did not and still do not know what to make of it.



Linny,
Chris is not a prick...he can be but so can every man!

Every1 in the family does not like Chris.But they dont know everything about him! Grrrrr They just hear me bitch about the things he does that piss me off. So he is a bad guy cause he can piss me off. But every1 has there fights. I just let my family know about them for one reason or another. I will just feep my mouth closed from now on!!!!!

Courtney O. said...

Guys just don't get it. This is why I have my girls - so I can call and bitch, cry, etc. and then go back to everyday life with my husband. I couldn't function without my girls these days :)

Px said...

katie
chill
other peoples opinions matter, but only yours count when it comes to chris

linny
of course i'm right, i'm great ;)

berly & katie
the fella's are saying these things for possibly this reason, they are trying to be nice and understanding sort of thing
oh look i know what i mean, i'm a fella and we're not god at this sort of thing

Katie said...
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Katie said...

x,
I know that other peoples opinions matter. But when my family starts going on about Chris it makes me mad.
I'm not mad at any of you, I was just having a very bad day and that gave me a reason to vent.

courtney,
I'm with you ! If I did noot have my girlfriends to cry and bitch to. I don't know what I would do.

Natalia said...

Awwww...I'm sorry spilling your heart out didn't do much. I need input from the other person as well. I used to be the one to do the most talking. Now, I have learned to stay quiet. People tend to talk more and fill in the silences.

-N

Anonymous said...

Berle, we share a common problem. I like to call it "The Being Married to a Quiet Man" syndrome. Take for example a normal evening at our home:

Shana: What's wrong sweetie?
Chad: Nothin...just chillin.
Shana: Are you sure?
Chad: Yep.

I like to counteract it with the "Cold Shoulder Bitch" routine. Observe:

Shana: (not speaking for several hours, just stare blindly off into space)
Chad: Why are you so quiet? Are you mad at me?
Shana: Nope.
Chad: Are you sure?
Shana: (long pause while staring)...Yep...just chillin.

AND BAM! There it is...the proverbial kiss of death. Not only does it drive him nuts, it gives you the satisfaction of throwing his quietness back in his face in an understated yet defiant way, and maintaining your ladieness and not causing a fight. It's a twofer if you will...